Have you ever wondered why do people lie constantly and at every end in all walks of life?True,there are white lie and I'm the first to admit that I've lied to cover up. But, worse there are obsessive,pathetic liars who fake it up at every end. It's an absolute no no and such jerks do such stuffs unabashedly.
Do we really impress upon people to gain audience or to protect ourselves from the ire of society. Simple rule:When we lie we are not fooling others, we end up fooling ourselves. Dumb are those who think the others are foolish. They themselves are not idiots. No one is an idiot. I think it got to do with someone with an insecure nature and afraid of life. Such people have faced lies in life and were not treated very well by someone. If one learn to respect himself or herself, no one, I repeat no one can ever make us feel inferior or low. I think liars have this quality in them..if quality is a term apt to describe them. They feel that possessing the flair of lying is a quality.
I have observed that in office the shrewed manipulators will constantly tell lies to break the unity or show their superiority. To prove my case of insecurity, the man or woman will lie to be in the good books of the boss or they may be vying for promotion which they think they can't seal through sheer capability. Add another trait of blatant liars is an inferiority complex that they have nurtured in life. From my own perspective, they need help and gotta consult a psychiatrist to help them out and as it is it not a grave illness but proper channeling is needed and certain incidents which propelled them to lie should be worked upon. It happen since they are unsure of themselves and are oblivious of the real them. It may be a childhood incident which took place and which has remained entrenched in their own self. It has resulted in a fear that perhaps people will hurt them. It gives an immense boost to their ego and they often adopt this approach known as defense mechanism to protect them. They are probably wary of goodness in life.
Reacting to a lies and liars shouldn't be fraught with anger or hatred. As it is nothing happens without reason and there must be a reason behind this. We should try to understand and perhaps help them. However, if we observe that their problem is mental,just give them sign that we are not just interested and are a bad catch,give them some sign of irritation such as a keen disinterest with their ranting or plain ignore them. They will understand.
Good night
2010-12-30
2010-12-28
High-Flyer
New Year bells ringing. The party gonna rock ,an ode to the dancing stars. The Great Decade gonna pull to an end?00.00hrs Saturday. We shall drink to the stars and welcome a new era. Time to bid farewell to 10 years of greatness,fulfillment and magic. As we enter with our magic lamp in a brand new year and decade with a twinkle in our eyes, the child in us shall be delighted while opening our eyes. Woohoo!I'm new to this world. We become a new born again and getting acquainted with the new world.
World Greatest Baby,that's me. Pampered to the maxi..Who doesn't love pampering,cuddling.Love rocks,life rocks, the bomb chika rocks. Hieeehieeee. Dancing and singing Paapaaapaaa.An ode to the world,to love and life.
The problem with us, human beings is that we always keep postponing things and years passed and we just sit,Oh!Man!This year passeth and still I'm back to square one. Time to act,baby and 2011 shall be the year to work slowly on stuffs that we must do. The end results will be simply beautiful. I have decided to pursue my dreams,have you?
I've been fidgeting with the idea of publishing my collection of short stories. Unfortunately, it's not happening and from January,I ain't going to sit and say tomorrow I shall write. This time,I shall stick judiciously to my work and sitting for at least for 2 hours,thrice in a week with my brains,pen,paper or Key pad. We have our assets, our intellect and no mother fucker can take it away from us. We dream of flying high with our dreams and visions and we shall take it up to the sky. A life without dreams or passion is not worth living.
What's your 2011 dreams and goals?Jot it on paper and let's see in a matter of years. Believe me ,it's gonna be a magical year when the world will take a bow and say This is the babe or dude and he's an inspiration to us. If He Can,We Can.
Love
The one&only
Vishal
World Greatest Baby,that's me. Pampered to the maxi..Who doesn't love pampering,cuddling.Love rocks,life rocks, the bomb chika rocks. Hieeehieeee. Dancing and singing Paapaaapaaa.An ode to the world,to love and life.
The problem with us, human beings is that we always keep postponing things and years passed and we just sit,Oh!Man!This year passeth and still I'm back to square one. Time to act,baby and 2011 shall be the year to work slowly on stuffs that we must do. The end results will be simply beautiful. I have decided to pursue my dreams,have you?
I've been fidgeting with the idea of publishing my collection of short stories. Unfortunately, it's not happening and from January,I ain't going to sit and say tomorrow I shall write. This time,I shall stick judiciously to my work and sitting for at least for 2 hours,thrice in a week with my brains,pen,paper or Key pad. We have our assets, our intellect and no mother fucker can take it away from us. We dream of flying high with our dreams and visions and we shall take it up to the sky. A life without dreams or passion is not worth living.
What's your 2011 dreams and goals?Jot it on paper and let's see in a matter of years. Believe me ,it's gonna be a magical year when the world will take a bow and say This is the babe or dude and he's an inspiration to us. If He Can,We Can.
Love
The one&only
Vishal
2010-12-26
Q's &A's for X-mas-merrily yours
Merry X-mas. Tonite is the nite.My faviourite X-mas color?
Red of course. Coz it stands for anything bright,love and romance of course.On any normal day,White coz it stands for positivity, brilliance and purity.
Flowers?
Who doesn't love flowers. It's the perfect gift to sweep the ladies off the feet. You can win hearts. Can't say it with words,just say with flowers.
Celebrations?
Life is a celebration. Make everyday Xmas day,Diwali. Celebrate our state of being and there's neva a dull moment in life.Live the passion and be passionate bout everything that click. Life is meant to be colourful,our mint chocolate.
Kiss?
The most beautiful expression of emotions. Feelings shouldn't be supressed but nurtured and expressed every second and minute.kiss is like ice cream, enjoy it before it melts.
What I'm wearing right now?
Yaar what do u expect?It's night time and a green shorts gifted by Mom and red Tee-It's Xmas and it's not over yet. A perfect romance on my way to dreams.Sweet dreams,kisses.
Red of course. Coz it stands for anything bright,love and romance of course.On any normal day,White coz it stands for positivity, brilliance and purity.
Flowers?
Who doesn't love flowers. It's the perfect gift to sweep the ladies off the feet. You can win hearts. Can't say it with words,just say with flowers.
Celebrations?
Life is a celebration. Make everyday Xmas day,Diwali. Celebrate our state of being and there's neva a dull moment in life.Live the passion and be passionate bout everything that click. Life is meant to be colourful,our mint chocolate.
Kiss?
The most beautiful expression of emotions. Feelings shouldn't be supressed but nurtured and expressed every second and minute.kiss is like ice cream, enjoy it before it melts.
What I'm wearing right now?
Yaar what do u expect?It's night time and a green shorts gifted by Mom and red Tee-It's Xmas and it's not over yet. A perfect romance on my way to dreams.Sweet dreams,kisses.
2010-12-21
Celebration time, dating and TMK
Hey beautiful People,holla..Cheerz to all gorgeous babes and the dudes of the world. I know you guys kinda buzzy preparing for X-mas and New Year. Which is d most happening party in town and where to attend. Well,anticipation for the upcoming year and a small appraisal on the year which is in the process of passing away. What clicked and what didn't. Your mantra, my mantra and sab ka mantra.
Whooa!Just watched the promo of Tees Maar Khan with Akshay Kumar and Shenaz Treasurywala where Akki speaks on TMK, Katrina and the biggest con of the year. Hold your breath. 4 more days to go and me can't wait to watch TMK and already gung-ho on TMK title song and Sheela Ki Jawaani. As I look on the year that was, I've been single and at one point, feel very happy to have my space, doing things on our own. The best part of being singleton.Here its is, no worry of expectations in a relationship and you do things on your own. But, at the same time, I also suffer from a crisis. Yes! I admit that am confused. If the real me is happy being single, on the other hand, I long for someone in my life. It's been two years since we called it quits. But, now it's time to hold someone hands at the coffee shop,kissing and cuddling and other perks that come with dating and relationship. Speaking in relationship, I believe that when you are young , you don't enter a relationship that thinking that it's for ever. The forever thing doesn't work as such. It might in some cases but most of the time, nature of relationship changes. We all know that a relationship is not expected to last forever. It's all about experimenting,baby and moving on with life. We all need someone at some point in life, a shoulder to lean and being together in this journey called Life. All my relationship has been a learning experience and I do not regret anything.
True, I was hurt by some relationship due to too much expectation or because things didn't turned the way it should. But, that ain't sopping me from getting in a new relationship with someone. We must never say NO to relationship who can take us to places and elevate us towards self-growth. That's why I say now to the teenage dudes and babes that you should never say NO. Post break up, it's quite normal to feel down. But, baby life goes on and there is always someone whom you can date for fun. At this age, we don't wanna be serious in a relationship.
NOW, before those so-moral policing try to blast me, I go on and spread love and cheers.Babes N Dudes enjoy d party and have fun. Those who are singles I wish they will no longer be in 2011.
Love N Live life fully
Vishal
Whooa!Just watched the promo of Tees Maar Khan with Akshay Kumar and Shenaz Treasurywala where Akki speaks on TMK, Katrina and the biggest con of the year. Hold your breath. 4 more days to go and me can't wait to watch TMK and already gung-ho on TMK title song and Sheela Ki Jawaani. As I look on the year that was, I've been single and at one point, feel very happy to have my space, doing things on our own. The best part of being singleton.Here its is, no worry of expectations in a relationship and you do things on your own. But, at the same time, I also suffer from a crisis. Yes! I admit that am confused. If the real me is happy being single, on the other hand, I long for someone in my life. It's been two years since we called it quits. But, now it's time to hold someone hands at the coffee shop,kissing and cuddling and other perks that come with dating and relationship. Speaking in relationship, I believe that when you are young , you don't enter a relationship that thinking that it's for ever. The forever thing doesn't work as such. It might in some cases but most of the time, nature of relationship changes. We all know that a relationship is not expected to last forever. It's all about experimenting,baby and moving on with life. We all need someone at some point in life, a shoulder to lean and being together in this journey called Life. All my relationship has been a learning experience and I do not regret anything.
True, I was hurt by some relationship due to too much expectation or because things didn't turned the way it should. But, that ain't sopping me from getting in a new relationship with someone. We must never say NO to relationship who can take us to places and elevate us towards self-growth. That's why I say now to the teenage dudes and babes that you should never say NO. Post break up, it's quite normal to feel down. But, baby life goes on and there is always someone whom you can date for fun. At this age, we don't wanna be serious in a relationship.
NOW, before those so-moral policing try to blast me, I go on and spread love and cheers.Babes N Dudes enjoy d party and have fun. Those who are singles I wish they will no longer be in 2011.
Love N Live life fully
Vishal
2010-12-20
Love ya Fraanship
Akriti and Purab were the best friends in college and they were admired whenthey walked together. Their friends were saying that they make the perfect couple. They weren't dating. They were always together,studying, going for coffee and movies. Two inseperable friends who were not dating each other since they had love interests for different people.
Then, one day it was bound to happen. Puran was falling in love with Akriti. He couldn't muster the courage of telling his best friend, for fear of losing her. He confided to some of his friends and all of them coaxed him to share his feelings with her since they were always together and she would not say no. One fine day he told Akriti that he loves her and he will go to any length to make her happy. She didn't thought twice and slapped him. She let him know that he had hurt her feelings and has ruined their beautiful friendship. She stopped talking to each other. Years passed, they met and started talking to each other and met often. But, things were different.
This is something which affect many of us in college. So many times we fell in love with a very good friend or worst, our best friend. It becomes very delicate and complicated. On one hand, it is a question of telling the other person the truth and on the other hand, there is always a risk of losing him or her. Should we take a risk?
A risk is always a risk. First of all, we must find out if she is going steady with someone. If yes, how serious this person is in its relationship with their boyfriend or girl friend. Perhaps, if we have a chance we should not rush and do it smoothly. Or,say it with flowers and small gestures to make the other person feel that we are caring as a lover. She already knows that we care as a friend but certainly he or she doesn't know us a lover.
Secondly, no matter what position we are,not overindulge her nor overdo things which will scare him or her away. Or, else they might have this misconception that we are some fucking asshole who was just using him or her to date or sleep with. Such acts is a mind blowing recipe to tear apart a Friendship which has taken years to bloom.
Last but not least, always behave normally as possible and do not in any situation act in a weird way. Don't try to be aloof with your best,cute friend or try to be over friendly. Over friendly gesture such as acting like an obsessed lover, potential husband or wife and act like a father or mother. Don't give gyaan such as with whom arr you speaking too long on the phone, why do you smoke too much. Certainly, do not withdraw or cut off contact plus hanging with new set of friends or ignoring her in the campus for the new hottie. Coz when or she finds out the real reason, they will be hurt and it hit the most when your best friend does something like that.
I had been in this situation in college when I fell for this girl who was a very good friend of mine. We were hanging out together and when I asked her out, she countered back saying that I knew that there is someone in her life. Well, I took a risk down the aisle and shared my feeling with her. At first, it was odd with us but later things went back to normal. In a few days, there was her birthday and we went to college,clicked some pictures together, gave her a huge hug. A tight hug indeed! It was awesome. Well, I was fortunate that she understood my feelings and never hurt me,in whichever way. I'm proud such a friend entered my life. I've been an asshole and started behaving weirdly, was rude. I'm genuinely sorry for that and I know that thingy will not be the same again. We moved to different countries.
Yet gain, I disgressed from the main topic:Love ya Friendship. Though,it's sensible not do anything to break the relationship, it is important to share your feeling with your friends with whom you've fallen for. Do it in a subtle manner. Personally, I believe that it is important to keep friendship and love apart. They just don't blend,except in a very few cases and the relationship is bound to be affected in some way. Expectations from each other will stoke up. But, God is not always kind to us. Sometimes, we do fall in love with the best friend and little can we do to change the situation. It is always a risk and we fall in a catch 22 situation. Should we or should we not?Tough and delicate situation. Take some steps but make sure that you don't hurt the other person with whom you shared your dark secrets, had the best laugh with ,clapped hands and cried together in the movies..the magical moments of life. Your take entirely.
With loads of love
Vishal
Then, one day it was bound to happen. Puran was falling in love with Akriti. He couldn't muster the courage of telling his best friend, for fear of losing her. He confided to some of his friends and all of them coaxed him to share his feelings with her since they were always together and she would not say no. One fine day he told Akriti that he loves her and he will go to any length to make her happy. She didn't thought twice and slapped him. She let him know that he had hurt her feelings and has ruined their beautiful friendship. She stopped talking to each other. Years passed, they met and started talking to each other and met often. But, things were different.
This is something which affect many of us in college. So many times we fell in love with a very good friend or worst, our best friend. It becomes very delicate and complicated. On one hand, it is a question of telling the other person the truth and on the other hand, there is always a risk of losing him or her. Should we take a risk?
A risk is always a risk. First of all, we must find out if she is going steady with someone. If yes, how serious this person is in its relationship with their boyfriend or girl friend. Perhaps, if we have a chance we should not rush and do it smoothly. Or,say it with flowers and small gestures to make the other person feel that we are caring as a lover. She already knows that we care as a friend but certainly he or she doesn't know us a lover.
Secondly, no matter what position we are,not overindulge her nor overdo things which will scare him or her away. Or, else they might have this misconception that we are some fucking asshole who was just using him or her to date or sleep with. Such acts is a mind blowing recipe to tear apart a Friendship which has taken years to bloom.
Last but not least, always behave normally as possible and do not in any situation act in a weird way. Don't try to be aloof with your best,cute friend or try to be over friendly. Over friendly gesture such as acting like an obsessed lover, potential husband or wife and act like a father or mother. Don't give gyaan such as with whom arr you speaking too long on the phone, why do you smoke too much. Certainly, do not withdraw or cut off contact plus hanging with new set of friends or ignoring her in the campus for the new hottie. Coz when or she finds out the real reason, they will be hurt and it hit the most when your best friend does something like that.
I had been in this situation in college when I fell for this girl who was a very good friend of mine. We were hanging out together and when I asked her out, she countered back saying that I knew that there is someone in her life. Well, I took a risk down the aisle and shared my feeling with her. At first, it was odd with us but later things went back to normal. In a few days, there was her birthday and we went to college,clicked some pictures together, gave her a huge hug. A tight hug indeed! It was awesome. Well, I was fortunate that she understood my feelings and never hurt me,in whichever way. I'm proud such a friend entered my life. I've been an asshole and started behaving weirdly, was rude. I'm genuinely sorry for that and I know that thingy will not be the same again. We moved to different countries.
Yet gain, I disgressed from the main topic:Love ya Friendship. Though,it's sensible not do anything to break the relationship, it is important to share your feeling with your friends with whom you've fallen for. Do it in a subtle manner. Personally, I believe that it is important to keep friendship and love apart. They just don't blend,except in a very few cases and the relationship is bound to be affected in some way. Expectations from each other will stoke up. But, God is not always kind to us. Sometimes, we do fall in love with the best friend and little can we do to change the situation. It is always a risk and we fall in a catch 22 situation. Should we or should we not?Tough and delicate situation. Take some steps but make sure that you don't hurt the other person with whom you shared your dark secrets, had the best laugh with ,clapped hands and cried together in the movies..the magical moments of life. Your take entirely.
With loads of love
Vishal
2010-12-16
Summer Love
It was the start of the summer in the Oxford of the East
They met in the lush,green campus surrounded by trees.
He asked for direction to his class.
It was his first day in university.
She smiled wistfully
"That way."
He was surprised when she entered the class.
They met for coffee and studied together.
In a matter of time they fell in love.
It was silent and both of them knew it ain't gonna be forever.
They held hands in the multiplex.
In three months, their course would get over.
She would fly back to stay with her parents.
Perhaps, they would never ever met.
He introduced her to the art of reading with passion.
Both of them became avid readers.
The Harry Potter series,Arundathi Roy's The God of Small things, A suitable Boy and many more.
They couldn't get over each other.
A love to be felt and the summer attraction.
They never talked about being together,forever.
Sometimes,they would cuddle,make love love.
There was nothing physical in it.
They were not attached.
It was spiritual.
Like all things,it had to end.
They didn't said anything,nor shed a tear.
They just departed.
As the winter step in,
Their love faded into physical oblivion.
What remained were ruins of memory.
A summer love.
They shall wait for the next summer.
Never say bye bye.
Good night.
Vishal
They met in the lush,green campus surrounded by trees.
He asked for direction to his class.
It was his first day in university.
She smiled wistfully
"That way."
He was surprised when she entered the class.
They met for coffee and studied together.
In a matter of time they fell in love.
It was silent and both of them knew it ain't gonna be forever.
They held hands in the multiplex.
In three months, their course would get over.
She would fly back to stay with her parents.
Perhaps, they would never ever met.
He introduced her to the art of reading with passion.
Both of them became avid readers.
The Harry Potter series,Arundathi Roy's The God of Small things, A suitable Boy and many more.
They couldn't get over each other.
A love to be felt and the summer attraction.
They never talked about being together,forever.
Sometimes,they would cuddle,make love love.
There was nothing physical in it.
They were not attached.
It was spiritual.
Like all things,it had to end.
They didn't said anything,nor shed a tear.
They just departed.
As the winter step in,
Their love faded into physical oblivion.
What remained were ruins of memory.
A summer love.
They shall wait for the next summer.
Never say bye bye.
Good night.
Vishal
2010-12-13
Christmas bells
New kid is back on the blog. Hurray!Hip Hip Hurray!As we wait in anticipation for Christmas and gorging on delightful chocolates, party and after party, I chose Vodka for this Christmas and a good Dvd. Can't wait to watch for Tees Maar Khan, with Akki and Kats. The promos looks exciting and superb this 24 December. Countdown: 12 more days to come and Santa Claus shall sneak into our houses and carefully place beautiful gifts and toys in our clean,polished room. Kids of the world polish your shoes coz Father Christmas shall bless them with Chocolates and gifts.
Some of us will decorate the X-mas tree with miniature decorations and small gift wrap. The old tiresome Father Christmas with a huge bag, filled with toys,sweets and blessings, dressed in red and black boots shall mount an arduous task to reach our homes. He shall climb mountains,climbs and face snows and at midnight, he will reach our homes,tired like hell. We shall be sleeping peacefully while the old man tired will exude a smile to our innocent face and offer us blessings. The time we wake up in the morning, we shall jump with delight as we unfold our gift wrap, unaware of Father Christmas presence. We shall search for him but he is laughing and smiling saying, where are you searching, I am all around,I stay in your heart.
Pals, dear Pals, Father Christmas shall be very tired after visiting so many houses. Put some nice music for him before sleeping and keep some juice for him to drink coz he's very tired and shall be very tired coz there are plenty of children's houses he gotta visit.
Toc,toc Father christmas is knocking on ma door.
Lemme go and see.
bye bye
Alvida.
Vishal
Some of us will decorate the X-mas tree with miniature decorations and small gift wrap. The old tiresome Father Christmas with a huge bag, filled with toys,sweets and blessings, dressed in red and black boots shall mount an arduous task to reach our homes. He shall climb mountains,climbs and face snows and at midnight, he will reach our homes,tired like hell. We shall be sleeping peacefully while the old man tired will exude a smile to our innocent face and offer us blessings. The time we wake up in the morning, we shall jump with delight as we unfold our gift wrap, unaware of Father Christmas presence. We shall search for him but he is laughing and smiling saying, where are you searching, I am all around,I stay in your heart.
Pals, dear Pals, Father Christmas shall be very tired after visiting so many houses. Put some nice music for him before sleeping and keep some juice for him to drink coz he's very tired and shall be very tired coz there are plenty of children's houses he gotta visit.
Toc,toc Father christmas is knocking on ma door.
Lemme go and see.
bye bye
Alvida.
Vishal
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