It’s the first Sunday of the last month in 2017. December is the time we step into party mood, yay! It got me thinking how we have become technology ridden mortals who lost the art of a good conversation. We prefer to deck our head deep on phone gadgets while sipping coffee rather than smiling to a plain stranger for some chit-chat.
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The truth is we have lost on so many counts, whether calling a friend or randomly walking to a chick at the bus stop to exchange Hi. Wait! It doesn't need to be a chick or dude for some playful flirting but just exchanging some good vibes or asking someone out for coffee. It may look weird, for sure to ask a stranger out. It whittles down to fear, social construct and the blockage shit we put inside the wired brain or for that matter, our own communication skills.
Guilty as charged. I am doling out gyaan here but will be the last person to converse randomly with someone in a public place. It makes me wonder how the routine and stressful world of slogging the ass and moral values fetters us to believe in the stupid crap that has turned us into robots. We are the product of a failed system, read faulty education or religious values.
There is the fear of rejection and sometimes it's fun to be turned down. Repeat it a second time and be prepared to be ignored. And, the third occasion, revel in the fun of someone's reluctance to speak to you. But, challenge yourself and walk to some stranger to be ready to face rejection. Stoke up the conversation and be human. Yeah! Right!
Just be yourself if you want to impress this chick sitting at the next table or standing at the bus stop. You don't need to be a dude lying indecently to impress someone. Hey! Everyone carries a mobile nowadays and gone are the days of not wearing a wristwatch! Just smile and say Hi. Behave in a normal fashion and just speak in a casual manner over almost anything under the sun. Be creative and don't go overboard. We are humans who appreciate people who don't try too hard to be themselves.
Time doesn't wait for anyone. Heard it and done this. But, we are trapped in the so-called busy humdrum of life and have exaggerated this adage which is detrimental to our mental sanity and balance. In this entire process, we are forgetting how to live life and enjoying every moment whether it’s gazing at the stars, watching people who trudge happily or indulging in joyful moments. Dare to stop for a while, breath free and talk to people, not technology. Stop being such enslaved beings but be a happy soul. It doesn't cost a single rupee to be this mindful soul who shed all barriers and clutter.
We are more fearful about the others perception of us rather than what we think of ourselves. It leads to a low self-esteem that prevents us from growing and deter us to do daredevil acts, be a fun-loving sport and approach someone with confidence. It is something which is holding us back and the mental block of the conservative society which perpetuates our thinking which we have internalized within. We need to get out of this comfort zone which is destroying our soul.
Joining a club or volunteering for social work is a good opportunity to meet and discover new like-minded people to hit it off. Often, new relationships can kick-start by working for a common cause if you are too shy and it doesn’t harm in greeting a plain stranger at the jogging park.
Remove every blockage in the mind and reach out to people to overcome the burden that you may have carried or accumulated from the past and flush them out in the drainage.
Ciao
Vishal
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